Advice for Self-Care and Self-Loathing
Earlier today, I put together a brief write-up for a friend about how to get started with proper self-care, as well as how to fight against self-loathing. Since I expect others might find it helpful, I've reproduced it below. Take care of yourself~
- Eat 3 real, substantial meals every day.
- Drink at least 8 full cups of water every day.
- Aim to get 7-8 hours of sleep a night.
- Get some minimum level of light exercise (e.g. walking around for 20-30 minutes a day).
And most importantly:
FIGHT YOUR CRITICAL INNER VOICE TOOTH AND NAIL!
Seriously, don't give it even a centimeter of slack!
Every time that nasty little voice tries to talk down to you, telling you you're bad or pathetic or not worthy,
suggesting that your friends don't actually care about you, there's only one thing to do:
TELL IT TO FUCK OFF!
Make it shut up by thinking loudly over it!
Mentally shout obscenities back at it!
Do whatever you have to do to make it stop undermining your self-love and self-worth!
And as your mental fortitude grows, you can even go toe to toe with it, dismantling its weak, illusory arguments brick by brick!
Also, if you struggle with insomnia keeping you from sleeping:
- Add blue light filters to all of your devices that activate in the evening.
- Stop using all devices for at least an hour before bedtime.
- CBD gummies can help you fall asleep, and exercising in the day will help you stay asleep.
It's a painfully slow process, and sometimes it'll feel like you're not getting anywhere with it at all—or are actively moving backwards with it, even.
Just remember: Perseverance is power~ If you keep fighting it, I know you'll overcome it~ Everyone believes in you, heheheh~ 🖤🤍